Adulting 101: Not all relationships are meant to last

By Sydney Horton
Times-News correspondent 


Part of being an adult means letting go of relationships that have run their course. [Metro Creative Graphics

A crucial part of getting older is learning to let go.
Letting go can be one of the most relieving, yet stressful things you can do as an adult.
When do you know it’s time to let go? Whenever you feel burdened by being around a certain person, it may be time to let go. However, there is a distinct difference between suffering from anxiety and just needing to let go of something. As far as letting go of objects, it’s as simple as this: If it serves no purpose and doesn’t make you happy, get rid of it.
Imagine you’re having lunch with a friend and they make you feel inferior, or they possess other toxic traits that may now feel like a burden to you. However, you can’t help but remember all of the good times you’ve had together. You may even think that being around them is better than having no one. Those are a few signs that it’s time to let go. If your friend, significant other, partner in crime etc., does not make you happy, let them go.
    It’s hard, and it’s going to hurt, but it must be done. You can confront them face-to-face by saying, “I don’t like the way you treat me. I no longer wish to be friends.”
Alternatively you can take an indirect approach by “ghosting” them; not as effective and may leave a lot of room for resentment, but it works. The middle-of-the-road approach is to take the time and evaluate what and why you feel the way you feel, confronting your emotions and your attachment to this person or thing. This method is beneficial because it helps you understand your emotions, so letting them (or it) go shouldn’t be as painful.
Letting go is like taking out the trash. It’s not the most exciting thing you can do, but it must be done.

Sydney Horton is a student at Michigan State University and a Teens & 20s writer.

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